Remembering Becky…

Last week I attended a service remembering and celebrating the life of my friend Becky. We had been acquaintances for years – friends of the same friends – but I really got to know Becky well when she began attending the Bible study I teach.

I’m so blessed to call her my friend.

She was beautiful, creative, witty, and the best cook ever. Her home and her garden could grace the covers of magazines. When she brought a dish to Bible study, the last poor soul in line was left to try and lick the spoon to get a delectable bite. She was fun and she was funny. (At her request, her obituary ended with her quote, “The shell is here but the nut is gone.”)

But most of all, I remember and honor Becky because she loved people.  She loved her family. She loved her friends. She loved her Lord. She loved us all well.

Her son Jordan stood and recounted how she would always sing, “I love you a bushel and a peck and a hug around the neck” as she sent them off. How appropriate that her memorial service ended with this upbeat song.  Enjoy the lyrics here, as you listen to them sung by Doris Day:

A Bushel And A Peck

Then go out (whether you were blessed to know Becky or not) and honor her memory – -and the Lord she loved – by hugging someone you love and telling them:

I love you a bushel and a peck
A bushel and a peck and a hug around the neck

What a joy to know that as we celebrate the birth of Jesus, our dear Becky is with Jesus.

Merry Christmas to you and to those you are blessed to know and love.

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Making a List


 

 

 

It’s what we do at Christmas –right?

  • The gift list
  • The shopping list
  • The baking list
  • The Christmas card list
  • The decorating list

Some are then broken down into sub-lists.  The shopping list, for example, might be subdivided to grocery shopping, mall shopping, and on-line ordering. The decorating list might be inside and outside.

It’s fun and frenzy. It’s happy and hectic. It’s stressful and sensational. It’s Christmas.

How refreshing to note a list also included in the Christmas passage found in the Gospel of Matthew.

Matthew 1:1 begins:

“A record of the genealogy of Jesus Christ…”

And Matthew 1:17 ends:

“… Jesus, who is called Christ.”

The first seventeen verses of the New Testament are devoted to tracing the heritage of Jesus—42 generations in all. Lots of names, some familiar and others not so much.

Is it a coincidence that His name is at the beginning and at the end? He is the alpha and the omega. He is the beginning of our real life – the “life that is truly life” (I Timothy 6:19) – and the end – our “blessed hope” for eternity (Titus 2:13).

We are often told that doing less is more. We are challenged to simplify, eliminate, cut down, and cut back. Create white space. I’ve tried. I can’t.

My solution instead is to keep HIM first and last. To put Jesus at the top of every list. I’m asking the Holy Spirit to give me a Christ-centered focus as I go about shopping, wrapping, decorating, baking, packing, mailing, delivering, cooking, hosting, and every other ing that finds its way to my life and my list.

Go ahead.  Make the lists. Check them and then check them off. But keep Christ at the top – the first and the last – of every list. After all, it’s HIS birthday we are celebrating!

 

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“…consider what great things he has done for you.”

thanksgiving-candleAs for me, far be it from me that I should sin against the LORD by failing to pray for you. And I will teach you the way that is good and right. But be sure to fear the LORD and serve him faithfully with all your heart;
consider what great things he has done for you
.
I Samuel 12:23-24

In Samuel’s farewell speech, he promises to pray for the people. He taught them what was “good and right.” He challenged them to allow what they learned to alter their behavior.

What we believe about God changes how we respond and what we do for God.

As Samuel wrapped up his speech, he called the people to thankfulness as he challenged them to “consider what great things he has done for you.”

That’s still good advice for us today all these years later.

  • Remembering that we owed a debt we could not pay.
  • Remembering that we were captives and He set us free.
  • Remembering that He is a gracious God who gives us what we do not deserve.
  • Remembering that He is a merciful God who does not give us what we do deserve.

Take a little time. Remember. Consider. Be thankful.

Allow gratefulness to settle over you. And then allow it to fill you and fuel you. Allow it to prompt you to praise Him with the Psalmist:

“I will sing to the Lord for he has been good to me.”
Psalm 13:6

Happy Thanksgiving, my friends!

 

 

 

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Time for a U-Turn?

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With her two daughters-in-law
she left the place where she had been living
and set out on the road
that would take them back to the land of Judah.

Ruth 1:7

After moving to Moab for “awhile,” (see last week’s blog), tragedy strikes Elimelech’s family.  Elimelech dies and then more tragedy as both sons also die.  Naomi, who traveled down the highway to Moab with a family of four is now left alone.  How do you think she feels?  How would you feel – perhaps abandoned by God or forgotten by God?

But Naomi really wasn’t really alone.  She is left with two Moabite daughters-in-law.  Hearing the famine has ended in Bethlehem, she packs up her bags and, along with her two daughters-in-law, heads back home.

Ten years have passed and still Naomi decides to go back.  It is not too late.  Have you made a choice a long time ago and decided that it is too late to turn back?  Is there a relationship that needs to be mended?  Do you need to go back and release forgiveness to someone–or ask for forgiveness from someone?  Has it been 10 years or more?  What forgotten road would God have you travel to make things right?

Sometimes God wants to take us down a brand new road and sometimes He wants us to do a U-turn and go back over a long-forgotten but familiar road.

Would you pause now and ask God:

  • Who do I need to seek out?
  • To whom do I need to release forgiveness?
  • Do I need to make a u-turn?

The Christian life is not about always getting it right, but cultivating a spirit of humility that follows God’s leading to go back and make it right.

For the woman of God it is never too late to go back.

 

You can listen to the audio for Lesson 1 here:
http://fbcsiloam.podbean.com/e/the-book-of-ruth-lesson-1-laura-macfarlan/

 

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The Book of Ruth: How long is a while?

ruth-picWhat is your favorite chick flick – You’ve Got Mail, The Sound of Music, or maybe Meet Me in St Louis?

If your recipe for a great movie or a great story includes a Cinderella-type plot where the poor girl gets the rich guy, also a little gossip, hardship, a scary twist and even a happy ending with a wedding and a baby – then the book of Ruth does not disappoint.

But as we chase the storyline, let’s not miss the big story here.  You see, this is not really a book about Ruth or Boaz or Naomi.  It is really a book about God.  He gets the award for the lead male role in the Book of Ruth.  This is a story of redemption, a story of faith, hope and love. I hope you will read and study along the next few weeks as we journey through the book of Ruth together. I’m praying we all know a little more about our great God as we complete our study and that the Spirit of God uses the Word of God to change us to be more like Him.

The Book of Ruth opens with introducing four characters:  Elimelech, Naomi, Mahlon and Kilion.  The family is originally from Bethlehem but because there is a famine in God’s land, they are leaving God’s people and heading to the country of Moab. Moab had a long history with Israel and it wasn’t good.

Genesis 19 tells that the Moabite nation actually began by an incestuous union between Lot and his oldest daughter.  Lot’s daughters got their father drunk and seduced him in order to preserve the family line.  You see, you don’t necessarily have to watch 21st century TV to find perversion.  Sometimes it is found right here in the Bible.

In Deuteronomy 23:3 God instructs that no Moabite may enter the assembly of the Lord but yet those are the very people Elimelech chooses to live among.

Elimelech and his family were taking a road that would lead them to physical provision to stop their famine problem, but in solving their hunger dilemma they completely disregard the potential spiritual consequences.  The hunger problem may be solved, but it introduces a grave spiritual problem.

Do we do the same thing?  Do we choose to satisfy our short-term needs to be entertained by watching something on television that is inconsistent with God’s standards?  Do we satisfy our needs for friendship by hanging with people who have standards inconsistent with those of God and then adopt those same behaviors into our own lives?  Do we neglect one-on-one time with God using the “I-don’t-have-time-excuse” but yet always seem to have time to shop, do our nails, or check email? What short-term day-to-day decisions are you and I making at the expense of a long-term consequence?  Where do we need to stay the course—even when times are difficult?

Verse 1 tells us that Elimelech intended to live in Moab for a while.  Do you ever tell yourself, “I’ll just hit this news button one time and then I will get up and read my Bible” or “I’ll just watch this decedent TV show for a while and then I’ll turn it off” or “I’ll just visit this web site for a while and then I’ll do what I’m supposed to do.”  Fill in the blank with your life.  Look at Verse 4 – How long did a while turn in to?  10 years. TEN YEARS. The day-to-day choices that we make do indeed define the course of our lives.  We can have all the good intentions in the world, but what we are doing today to become the women of God that he is calling us to be? Where have we gotten off course?  What do you and I need to make a course correction?

 

 

 

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The Prayer of a Father-to-Be

prayer“Oh Lord I beg you.
Let the Man of God You sent to us come again
to teach us how to bring up the boy who is to be born.”
Judges 13:8

Isaac. Samson. Jesus.

The miraculous announcement of each baby was provided in advance.  The response by Manoah, the father of Samson, is recorded in Judges 13:8. When told of God’s plans for Samson, Manoah responded in prayer.

Two key points in his prayer provide prayer prompts for us.

First of all — He begs the Lord.  Do you and I come before God with a posture of begging?  Do we see Him as the great Provider and ourselves as the ones in great need?

  • We are thirsty and He has living water.
  • We are hungry and He is the bread of life.
  • We are sinners and He is our Savior.

We ask Him to do this, fix her and change that, and we want Him to do it yesterday, almost with a “Make it snappy, God!” attitude.

Manoah’s posture in even coming to God in prayer is a great example for us.  He comes begging God and asking God for His provision.

And then, secondly, he asks God to teach him how to complete the call on his life.

Have you ever prayed:

  • “God, teach me.”
  • “God show me.”
  • “God help me.”

Do you and I have a teachable spirit? Are we humble enough to ask for help?

Is Manoah’s example of prayer one that we follow?  When we need to grow in our lives or when we need guidance, do we ask? James 1:5 says,

“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all
without finding fault,and it will be given to him.”

Have you got it all together in every area of life?

Do you need help in knowing how to love your husband, lower your cholesterol, train your children, encourage a hurting friend, teach the 2nd grade SS class, make your budget work, care for aging parents, or find contentment and purpose in life?

Where do you and I lack wisdom? In what area of life are we plodding along…slugging through…stressed out…confounded … or just plain stuck in how to work it out.  Have you thought of simply asking God?

James reminds us that when we ask, He gives. Not sparingly…not begrudgingly…but generously! I love adverbs! Those ‘ly” words in Scripture give delightful shades of meaning and illumination.  God gives generously when we ask for wisdom.

Have you ever been embarrassed to go back and ask someone how to do something? Maybe  because you’ve asked 27 times before–or maybe because your age or experience might suggest you should already know how to do it. And have ever had that boss or friend or co-worker belittle or berate you or shame you–or even just sigh heavily as they answer? God doesn’t do that.  He doesn’t find fault with us for asking.  In fact, I think He delights in our asking.

James 1:5 opens with the phrase, “If any of you lacks wisdom…”  and ends, “it will be given.”  We can conclude that the means to get wisdom is to first acknowledge you need it.  That requires humility.  The prideful person thinks, “I’ve got this” or “I will figure this out on my own.” But the humble woman, like Manoah– Sampson’s father, asks and receives.

The woman of God has a teachable spirit.

The complete audio of this week’s teaching lecture can be found here:

http://fbcsiloam.podbean.com/e/the-book-of-judges-lesson-5-laura-macfarlan/

 

 

 

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The Affirmation Idol

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You shall have no other gods before me. Exodus 20:3

In the book of Judges God’s people continued to return to idol worship. They bowed down to graven images as they served the gods of the people living in the promised land.  We as 21st century believers are just as prone to idol worship but instead of Baal or Ashteroth, ours may be called comfort, control, or affirmation.

Have you considered praise from others to be an idol? Of course, there is nothing wrong with receiving or releasing encouragement.  It’s Biblical to bless one another with this kind of thankful affirmation. But as receivers of this gift, we must be careful to deflect all glory to God.

The crucible for silver and the furnace for gold, but man is tested by the praise he receives. Proverbs 27:21

If we do what we do because we are addicted to praise and affirmation from others, then that is our reward.

Our service for God should flow from a heart that loves God.  We serve Him because we love Him – -not because we are looking to be made much of or thought much of or thanked or appreciated.

You know affirmation has become an idol if while preparing a special meal for a family you are already thinking about how they will brag on your cherry pie.

You know affirmation has become an idol if you are frustrated that the new bride did not send you a proper thank you note for the lovely gift you gave.

You know affirmation has become an idol if the pastor did not brag on your VBS decorations.

You know affirmation has become an idol if your family barely looks at the beautiful scrapbook you made of the family vacation.

Always know this – your Father in heaven sees all.  Even if your brothers and sisters in Christ, your friends and family, your husband and children fail to acknowledge or appreciate you, your father in heaven sees.  He knows.  Get your strokes from Him.  Let pleasing Him be your chief aim.

If we have no expectations from others, then we will not be disappointed when they don’t read the lines we have written for them.  But when they do thank us and appreciate us, we can receive their thanks with a grateful heart, and deflect all glory to God.

The woman of God lives to please God.

And as she dies to her desire to be praised, she finds the weight of pleasing others and the addiction to affirmation has lost its hold.  She can serve God and love on others just for the joy of living and loving Jesus.

Here’s the link to the complete lecture for this week’s study in Judges:

http://fbcsiloam.podbean.com/e/the-book-of-judges-lesson-4-laura-macfarlan/

 

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Receiving Encouragement Requires Courage

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“If you are afraid to attack, go down to the camp with your servant Purah and listen to what they are saying. Afterward, you will be encouraged to attack the camp.” So he and Purah his servant went down to the outposts of the camp. Judges 6:10-11

Do you see the irony here? If you’re afraid with only 300, take just one and sneak up into harm’s way.

God is offering to reassure Gideon, but even the means to receive the reassurance requires an extraordinary step of faith. If caught, surely they would be put to death and there would be no battle.

Where do you and hold out and miss the blessing of God’s provision and God’s reassurance because of fear?

Gideon was afraid.  He was afraid in the winepress.  He was afraid while tearing down the altar to Baal. And now he is afraid of going into battle with only 300. But his fear did not paralyze him. Gideon knew God was greater than his fears. 

He stepped out and obeyed even when afraid.  That’s the essence of faith – a confidence in God that is greater than our fears.

In His sovereignty God led Gideon to eavesdrop on a conversation between two Midianite soldiers.  Of all the thousands of men in that army camp, it’s extraordinary that God led Gideon to that one man who had the dream. It’s extraordinary that Gideon arrived just in time to hear the man sharing it.  It defies coincidence.  Even the dream itself was God’s provision.

Here’s what Gideon heard while listening in on the conversation between the two soldiers…

I had a dream,” he was saying. “A round loaf of barley bread came tumbling into the Midianite camp. It struck the tent with such force that the tent overturned and collapsed.”
His friend responded, “This can be nothing other than the sword of Gideon son of Joash, the Israelite. God has given the Midianites and the whole camp into his hands.” Judges 7:13b-14

God provides both the dream AND the interpretation through these Midianite soldiers.  And God’s timing is perfect for Gideon to hear it.

Gideon’s response is the only possible, appropriate response:  he worshiped God

He praises God for his clear provision.

Do you and I praise and worship God when He provides?  Do you and I stop to acknowledge and thank God when He shows up?

The woman of God worships God.

You can access the entire teaching lecture here: http://fbcsiloam.podbean.com/e/the-book-of-judges-lesson-3-laura-macfarlan/

 

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Declared Righteous

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When the angel of the LORD appeared to Gideon, he said,
 “The LORD is with you, mighty warrior.”
Judges 6:12

 

Two houses.  Similar in size.  Both ranch style, three bedroom  and two bath.

One in Newport Beach, California and the other in Bay St. Louis, Mississippi.

Their prices: $1,069,000 and 69,900, respectively. That’s $599 per square foot versus $43 per squae foot!

An inventory list of how many 2 x 4’s, windows, doors, and shingles would be needed to duplicate each house would most likely be about the same.

The value has more to do with location: one is declared to be more valuable because of where it is.

We are all fixer-uppers. We are all in need of some changing out and some updating.  And it is our location at the foot of the cross that has us declared righteous.

In our text this week Gideon’s location was a winepress.  That’s not the typical place for threshing grain.  He was hiding out — finding a creative place to be safe from the marauding Midianites.  Though his location suggested a posture of fear, God declared him to be more than a coward.  God declared him to be “mighty warrior.” Gideon may have found a hidey hole to try and escape detection from the enemy but God declares him not a weenie but a warrior!

You and I may not feel righteous.  We may not always behave like women of God, but if our identity is in Christ, that’s exactly what we are. Our location at the foot of the cross means we sinners are declared righteous.

Our location at the cross changes everything!

We who know we are unworthy are declared worthy because of Jesus. We are declared righteous. We are made righteous in Christ. In Romans 3, Paul reminds us:

This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe.
There is no difference between Jew and Gentile,
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,
and all are justified freely by his grace
through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.

We are justified – we are declared righteous – in Christ. The cross changes everything.

The woman of God is declared righteous in Christ.

Maybe the world looked at Gideon and saw a coward, but God saw in him a mighty warrior. And when God looks at you, He sees what the world may not see.

 

You can hear the audio for this week’s teaching here:

http://fbcsiloam.podbean.com/e/the-book-of-judges-lesson-2-laura-macfarlan/

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Challenge from the Book of Judges: Train Up A Child

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After that whole generation had been gathered to their ancestors,
another generation grew up who
knew neither the LORD
nor what he had done for Israel.
Judges 2:10

The new generation neither knew God nor what he had done for Israel.

The new generation not only does not know God — no personal relationship – but they do not even know about Him.

Learning about God – factual information – can draw others in. We can think of it as tilling up the soil of the heart to be ready for the seed of faith to take root. We can’t make our children love God, but we can certainly be sure they know about God.

This generation in Israel is suffering the consequences of disobedient parents. I daresay our generation is no different.

We devote ourselves to decorating our homes, maintaining our cars, planning details for retirement, scheduling family vacations.  We make sure our kids learn to play an instrument, go to soccer camp, do their homework, and complete the ACT prep course.  Are we as concerned our children know the scripture as we are for them to have the credits needed for graduation?

But we must remember: God has no grandchildren.  We can do it all right and as unto the Lord and still have a prodigal.

You might say:

  • But Lord…I prayed for him.
  • But Lord…I prayed with her.
  • But Lord…I took him to Sunday School…I read the Word to her…we memorized it together…

For you, it is time to trust God – to release your child to God and wait.  Continue to pray, trusting the one who not only created your rebellious child, but loves him even more than you do.

In Proverbs 22:6 we read:

Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

Perhaps this stirs up hope for you — if you are the mother of a 6 year-old.  You may claim it as a guarantee that your child will never wander away from God or reject God altogether.

Perhaps this t verse stirs up shame or angst for you–if you are the mother of a 26-year-old prodigal. Did I not do my job, Lord?

Perhaps rather than offering an unconditional guarantee or a magic formula, it’s actually saying something altogether different.

We cannot will our children into the Kingdom by our own will.  But we can make sure they are trained up to KNOW the truth and knowing it means they can never get away from it. They may not bow to it.  They may not embrace it, but they can’t turn away from it.  They will hear their mother’s voice in their heads. More importantly, they will hear the truth of God’s Word in their heads — no matter how long they keep their hands on their ears!  They may reject the truth, but if we have done our job, they will know the truth.  We can continue to pray with hope that the Holy Spirit will keep after them. We can pray that God will be the hound of heaven relentlessly pursuing them with His great love. The best advice I can offer for parents of adult children: Shut up and pray!

You can hear the audio for this week’s teaching here:
http://fbcsiloam.podbean.com/e/the-book-of-judges-lesson-1-laura-macfarlan/

 

 

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